Understanding and Embracing Neurodivergence: A Holistic Perspective
Imagine your mind as a beautiful, vast landscape—a place where streams flow, mountains stand tall, and valleys wind peacefully. For some, this landscape is calm and predictable; for others, it’s dynamic, colorful, and full of surprises. This difference is not a flaw—it’s simply a different way of existing in the world.
Neurodivergence is a term that describes the unique ways brains can function, think, and experience the world. If you’re reading this, chances are you or someone you love identifies as neurodivergent. You may have heard words like ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or sensory processing differences. These are just a few examples of how neurodivergence can show up in our lives. But here's the thing: neurodivergence isn’t about being “broken” or “disordered.” It’s about recognizing the richness of human diversity and embracing the many ways of being.
As the proverb goes, “A tree that grows without care will search for the sun in any way it can.” This wisdom reminds us of the power of feeling seen, heard, and supported—especially when our experiences are different from the “norm.”
What Is Neurodivergence?
Neurodivergence refers to the natural variations in human brain function and behavior. Instead of viewing these differences as abnormalities or deficits, a neurodiversity affirming perspective sees them as part of the broad spectrum of human experience. Everyone’s brain is wired differently, and that’s a beautiful thing! Neurodivergent folks often process information, interact socially, and respond to stimuli in unique ways.
While society has often pathologized or stigmatized these differences, there is a shift toward understanding them through a holistic lens—one that honors the individual’s strengths, potential, and experiences without reducing them to a diagnosis.
Trauma and Neurodevelopment
Here’s where things get more complex. Trauma has a significant impact on neurodevelopment. Experiences of trauma—whether developmental, relational, or systemic—can shape the nervous system, affecting how we perceive safety, relationships, and the world around us. For neurodivergent folks, the intersection of trauma and neurodiversity can amplify challenges and create barriers to feeling understood or “enough” in a world that often doesn’t accommodate differences.
Trauma can make certain environments feel unsafe or overwhelming, leading to heightened anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or struggles with emotional regulation. When someone feels “off” or like they don’t quite fit in, it’s essential to look deeper and understand what’s happening inside—both in the mind and the body.
The Importance of a Holistic Perspective
I like to say that healing isn’t about fixing what’s “broken”—it’s about restoring balance, reclaiming power, and finding harmony within ourselves. This is why a holistic approach to neurodivergence is so important. Instead of focusing solely on the “symptoms,” I look at the entire person—mind, body, and spirit.
Holistic healing involves:
Honoring the whole person—not just the diagnosis.
Exploring past experiences that may have impacted the nervous system.
Fostering internal safety and self-regulation to navigate life’s challenges.
Emphasizing strengths and working with a person’s unique way of experiencing the world.
Like the Sankofa bird—a symbol from West Africa that looks back to move forward—we can honor our past while embracing our future. Healing requires understanding how past experiences, including trauma, have shaped our present reality, and creating a path that aligns with who we truly are.
Nervous System Regulation: The Foundation of Healing
For many neurodivergent individuals, regulating the nervous system is key to feeling safe, grounded, and connected. A regulated nervous system means feeling present in the moment, being able to respond (rather than react) to stressors, and finding a sense of internal calm even when the world feels chaotic.
Why is nervous system regulation important for neurodivergent folks?
The nervous system acts as our body's alarm system, guiding how we respond to stress, threats, and even joy. If past experiences—especially trauma—have heightened the nervous system’s sensitivity, it can lead to feeling constantly “on alert.” For neurodivergent individuals, this can make everyday environments feel overwhelming. This is why creating internal safety is crucial—helping to shift from a state of “survival” to “thriving.”
How We Can Work Together: A Holistic Approach to Healing
I incorporate several therapeutic modalities that support neurodivergent individuals in navigating the challenges they face and finding balance:
Narrative Therapy
We all have stories we tell ourselves—stories about who we are, what we’re capable of, and how we fit into the world. In Narrative Therapy, we work together to explore and rewrite those stories, creating empowering narratives that honor your unique strengths and experiences. You get to be the author of your life, not defined by a label or diagnosis.
Sensorimotor/Somatic Psychotherapy
Our bodies hold the memory of our experiences. Sensorimotor and somatic approaches help us connect with the body, allowing us to access and process emotions that might be “stuck” or lingering from past trauma. This type of therapy is particularly effective for neurodivergent individuals who might struggle with verbalizing their experiences but can sense them in their bodies. It’s about building safety, one step at a time.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
EMDR is a powerful, trauma-focused therapy that helps the brain reprocess distressing memories, so they no longer hold the same emotional charge. For neurodivergent folks, EMDR can be adapted to accommodate sensory sensitivities and create a gentle path toward healing. Together, we’ll find ways to work that feel comfortable and manageable for you.
Trauma-Informed Yoga and Meditation
Yoga isn’t just about poses—it’s about connecting with your breath, grounding into the present moment, and cultivating compassion for yourself. Trauma-informed yoga is gentle and accessible, emphasizing choice and empowerment. Meditation can also support nervous system regulation, helping to create moments of stillness and peace amidst a busy mind.
Let’s Journey Together
Healing isn’t a straight path; it’s a winding road, full of twists, turns, and unexpected beauty. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are exploring this aspect of yourself, my goal is to create a space where you feel safe, valued, and empowered. You deserve a place where you can be authentically you—without judgment or pressure to “fit in.”
In the words of Audre Lorde, “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” Let’s work together to define what healing looks like for you, in a way that honors every part of who you are.
If you’re ready to explore your own path to healing, let’s connect. Whether you’re in San Antonio or anywhere across Texas, I’m here to walk this journey with you.
Feel free to reach out and request and appointment today. You don’t have to do this alone—let’s find the harmony you’ve been searching for, together.
